Wednesday, March 11, 2009

"The identity of addiction is recognized by "never getting enough of what you dont want ",and is defined by any behaviour you wish to change but are unable to change ."

This is a example of the coulseling steps I would go threw with each person . As a Addictions Counselor I created my own techniques of counsel with consistant 95-98% sucess rates . I made every session geared for that individual always high lighting on these points . The key to sucess with my clients was to alter there own perception to a degree that they would "allow "change .

Assesing the reason and circumstances that created the desire or need for change . This helped me get to know the person ,and how there mind works so that I could mold to them instead of them molding to me . This creates a trust and repor that is nessasary . Any time someone is seeking the advice of a professional; that proffesional has to "qualify" on many levels within just moments . They are trusting you to not make them look or feel stupid about there discision to trust and listen to you .

Setting the scene for change , and creating a enviorment that is condusive for change .This means removing any and all temptations ,and creating a new routine that involves a healthier lifestyle and surrounding . The reason for this is to remove some of the temptations we have to repeat this old behaviour . Plus this helps us to feel good , and when we feel good we want to make good discisions .

Your words have power ! It is very important that your words reflect your desired outcome . Try to make statements like "I am now ___ ! The more you make these statements the more they will become your truth . You may feel as though you are lying at first , but that will soon change . "Everything begins in the mind moves to the heart and then becomes a action or a thing ." Statements like "I need" or "I have to have " become your truth also and so your brain becomes hard wired for addiction . These words pave the way for habitual ways of thinking and being . "The way that you created your old reality is how you create your new reality "also .
Ask yourself qualifying questions . Do I want it or do I need it ? A want is anything that you can exist without . A need is anything that you would die without such as air and water . This helps to bring to light that this is the addiction talking and once you expose it's behavours it will usually fade away until the next time it thinks it has you off gaurd . When this happens quickly choose something to do to distract you . This helps the moment to pass much faster . It's like being on the freeway and taking the off ramp . Soon the off ramp will become your new path that you travel .

Learn new methods for handling stress and anxity . We have stress in our lives no matter what . The key to handling stress is in how we cope such as becoming or organized , healthy diet and excersize . Threw excersize and other activities we are able to get the same release of endorphins that supports our ability to feel good . Try not to use food as a means for coping ,instead go for a walk ,drink some water or take a few deep breaths . Focus on your breathing . When you focus in inhaling and exhaling you get the same endorphine release , and are able to clear your mind . This is a very effective way to pass threw any mental craving ,stress or axioty ,and can be done anywhere anytime .

We create thoughts that create a chemical release . The body becomes acustomed to this chemical realease and begins to demand it . So what we are really talking about is meeting the needs of the brian . All the brain is doing is asking for this release of chemicals and it does not matter how it gets this release . These chemicals allow the brain to function as you have train it to fuction . The brain is simply reminding you of the fastest way it know of to get this release . The reason we become addicted is because we have created a habitual way of speaking and being .

Changing the people you associate with . We tend to surround ourselves with like natured people or rather people with simular belief patterns . The removal of these influances helps to keep the correct frame of mind . This change is nessasary while we are the most valnerable in our life style change . One of the main reason for this is because sometimes our friends don't know how to help us .

When the person is unwilling to change there associations the best way to handle this is for them to have a heart to heart conversation with all there associations . This conversation must include all of your more meaningful reasons for this change and a request for there help . The majority of people will help when asked to . During this convesation it is important to let them know how much they mean to you ,and that you know that they are the kind of person who likes to help others succeed . This employs a responsibilty and the person will want to live up to what your belief is of them . It is very important for this person to understand that we have moments of weakness and to not tempt us . The most helpful way they can aid is by reminding us of all our deep reasons we had for making this change in our life , and possibly even denie us help in repeating this old behaviour .

The "observing ego" is when you are able to observe your behaviour without judgement of right or wrong . This allows us to see our behavour very clearly . There is no strong emotion attacted to any behaviour because we are simply observing "what is" . When we are in a state of observation we are able to be in a state of allowing . The more you use this the easier it becomes to make changes .


Take full responsability for your life . This means understanding that you are the one that creates your thoughts ,and the one who allows your emotions . You have the right to create your beliefs and to hold them true . You also have the right to change your beliefs and make new ones . Everytime you create a belief you make a agreement . This agreements is to make your beliefs true this accures on a conscious and subconscious level . This is why creating a new "I am ____ !" is so important to your sucess .

Reward yourself by living life in the moment rather than on auto piolet ! Learn to be in the now and embrace with each breath . Try to notice your miles stones and give yourself a mental note and pat on the back . I always try to explain to my clients not to use crutches for to long because if you do you will have only created another addiction .


Asking for the inner strength and guidance in the morning and at night before bed helps to set the intent to be sucessful . Expressing graditute for already being sucessful helps to reinforce the belief that it is already done . You are now simply a matter of time for the body to aliegn with what your mind has decided is already done . Once you have thought it , and felt as thought its already done it will be done .

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